Relationships can be tricky. Relationships are not a piece of cake; they are work. A relationship needs to be nourished; it requires your utmost care. To make a relationship work, you need to give it your best shot. Although there are relationships that become toxic, the main ingredient in the recipe of a relationship is love, but what about other essential ingredients? The relationship becomes toxic when it does not contain faith, time for one another, communication, and honesty. People often tend to ignore the red flags when they are in love. But where do you stop? Where do you draw the line?
Today, we are going to tell you about the five signs that you are in a toxic relationship.
1. The Blame Game
Are you and your partner always in a vicious cycle of blaming each other? Do you feel like all you both do is blame each other for every single thing, and you never seem to find a solution? You whine about everything, and you both start giving each other the cold shoulder? If this is the case, you should know that you are in a toxic relationship, and the blame game is only going to burn bridges.
2. Jealousy on Another Level:
A little jealousy never hurts anybody. It is useful to know that your partner loves you a little too much and gets jealous when others get a little extra attention. But anything in extreme quantities becomes toxic. If you feel like you are in a relationship where your partner does not have any faith in you, they make a big deal out of everything, or if they keep an eye on you, then you should know that it is time to get out of that relationship.
3. Lack of Support:
Supporting one another, rooting for your partner, and compromising to make things work, are the keys to having a healthy relationship. If you feel like you are the only one who is investing in the relationship or that you are the only one who is holding things together, then you should talk things out or get out of the toxicity. There is a saying, “it takes two to tango”, which means that the efforts have to come from both the ends. It has to be a give-and-take relationship, and if you feel like you are the only one who is making compromises or if you are the only one who supports your partner through thick and thin, then you need to sit and analyse your relationship.
4. Excess Control:
Do you ever feel like you do not have a say in anything? From ordering food to making important decisions, your partner does not let you decide anything and takes control of your choices? If this is the case, then you should know that your relationship is turning into a toxic relationship. Your partner should understand that you both play an equal role in a relationship.
Your partner should respect your choices, and he or she should let you make your own decisions. Your partner should have a realization that they don’t have control over you or the relationship and that the relationship can only work in the long run, if they stop taking control over everything.
5. You are Keeping your Partner’s Needs Above Your Own:
Be it intentionally or just out of love, we often tend to keep the needs of our partner before our own. While this is a very thoughtful gesture, it can get toxic for us. We often tend to choose everything and do everything the way our partner likes. We tend to suppress our needs and our desires to keep them happy. Doing so is sweet and can be romantic at times, but making it a habit can destroy our peace of mind. You will find yourself restless and unhappy. You will always be unsatisfied, and these emotions will mark the end of your relationship.
Talk things out with your partner and try to mend your relationship. If you feel that any of the signs mentioned above are right in your case, sit and talk to your partner because keeping things to yourself will have a snowball effect on your relationship. Learn to prioritize and do not stay in that relationship just because there is love. Continuing to stay in a toxic relationship will only affect your mental health. Sometimes it is better to get rid of things, rather than holding onto them just for the sake of memories and love.